Ihavetogeneralize，ofcourse，rathertelescopingmanyimpressions;butthefirsteveningwasagoodsampleoftheimpressionwemade。Jeffhadafollowing，ifImaycallitthat，ofthemoresentimental——thoughthat’snotthewordIwant。
Thelesspractical，perhaps;thegirlswhowereartistsofsomesort，ethicists，teachers——thatkind。
Terrywasreducedtoarathercombativegroup：keen，logical，inquiringminds，notoverlysensitive，theverykindhelikedleast;
while，asforme——Ibecamequitecockyovermygeneralpopularity。
Terrywasfuriousaboutit。Wecouldhardlyblamehim。
\"Girls！\"heburstforth，whenthateveningwasoverandwewerebyourselvesoncemore。\"CallthoseGIRLS！\"
\"Mostdelightfulgirls，Icallthem，\"saidJeff，hisblueeyesdreamilycontented。
\"WhatdoYOUcallthem？\"Imildlyinquired。
\"Boys！Nothingbutboys，mostof’em。Astandoffish，disagreeablelotatthat。Critical，impertinentyoungsters。Nogirlsatall。\"
Hewasangryandsevere，notalittlejealous，too，Ithink。
Afterward，whenhefoundoutjustwhatitwastheydidnotlike，hechangedhismannersomewhatandgotonbetter。Hehadto。
For，inspiteofhiscriticism，theyweregirls，and，furthermore，allthegirlstherewere！Alwaysexceptingourthree！——withwhomwepresentlyrenewedouracquaintance。
Whenitcametocourtship，whichitsoondid，Icanofcoursebestdescribemyown——andamleastinclinedto。ButofJeffI
heardsomewhat;hewasinclinedtodwellreverentlyandadmiringly，atsomelength，ontheexaltedsentimentandmeasurelessperfectionofhisCelis;andTerry——Terrymadesomanyfalsestartsandmetsomanyrebuffs，thatbythetimehereallysettleddowntowinAlima，hewasconsiderablywiser。Atthat，itwasnotsmoothsailing。
Theybrokeandquarreled，overandover;hewouldrushofftoconsolehimselfwithsomeotherfairone——theotherfaironewouldhavenoneofhim——andhewoulddriftbacktoAlima，becomingmoreandmoredevotedeachtime。
Shenevergaveaninch。Abig，handsomecreature，ratherexceptionallystrongeveninthatraceofstrongwomen，withaproudheadandsweepinglevelbrowsthatlinedacrossaboveherdarkeagereyeslikethewidewingsofasoaringhawk。
IwasgoodfriendswithallthreeofthembutbestofallwithEllador，longbeforethatfeelingchanged，forbothofus。
Fromher，andfromSomel，whotalkedveryfreelywithme，IlearnedatlastsomethingoftheviewpointofHerlandtowarditsvisitors。
Heretheywere，isolated，happy，contented，whentheboomingbuzzofourbiplanetoretheairabovethem。
Everybodyheardit——sawit——formilesandmiles，wordflashedalloverthecountry，andacouncilwasheldineverytownandvillage。
Andthiswastheirrapiddetermination：
\"Fromanothercountry。Probablymen。Evidentlyhighlycivilized。
Doubtlesspossessedofmuchvaluableknowledge。Maybedangerous。
Catchthemifpossible;tameandtrainthemifnecessaryThismaybeachancetore—establishabi—sexualstateforourpeople。\"
Theywerenotafraidofus——threemillionhighlyintelligentwomen——ortwomillion，countingonlygrown—ups——werenotlikelytobeafraidofthreeyoungmen。Wethoughtofthemas\"Women，\"andthereforetimid;butitwastwothousandyearssincetheyhadhadanythingtobeafraidof，andcertainlymorethanonethousandsincetheyhadoutgrownthefeeling。
Wethought——atleastTerrydid——thatwecouldhaveourpickofthem。
Theythought——verycautiouslyandfarsightedly——ofpickingus，ifitseemedwise。
Allthattimewewereintrainingtheystudiedus，analyzedus，preparedreportsaboutus，andthisinformationwaswidelydisseminatedallabouttheland。
Notagirlinthatcountryhadnotbeenlearningformonthsasmuchascouldbegatheredaboutourcountry，ourculture，ourpersonalcharacters。Nowondertheirquestionswerehardtoanswer。ButIamsorrytosay，whenwewereatlastbroughtoutand——exhibited（Ihatetocallitthat，butthat’swhatitwas），therewasnorushoftakers。HerewaspooroldTerryfondlyimaginingthatatlasthewasfreetostrayin\"arosebudgardenofgirls\"——andbehold！
therosebudswereallwithkeenappraisingeye，studyingus。
Theywereinterested，profoundlyinterested，butitwasnotthekindofinterestwewerelookingfor。
Togetanideaoftheirattitudeyouhavetoholdinmindtheirextremelyhighsenseofsolidarity。Theywerenoteachchoosingalover;theyhadn’tthefaintestideaoflove——sex—love，thatis。
Thesegirls——toeachofwhommotherhoodwasalodestar，andthatmotherhoodexaltedaboveamerepersonalfunction，lookedforwardtoasthehighestsocialservice，asthesacramentofalifetime——werenowconfrontedwithanopportunitytomakethegreatstepofchangingtheirwholestatus，ofrevertingtotheirearlierbi—sexualorderofnature。
Besidethisunderlyingconsiderationtherewasthelimitlessinterestandcuriosityinourcivilization，purelyimpersonal，andheldbyanorderofmindbesidewhichwewerelike——schoolboys。
Itwassmallwonderthatourlectureswerenotasuccess;andnoneatallthatour，oratleastTerry’s，advancesweresoillreceived。Thereasonformyowncomparativesuccesswasatfirstfarfrompleasingtomypride。
\"Welikeyouthebest，\"Someltoldme，\"becauseyouseemmorelikeus。\"
\"Morelikealotofwomen！\"Ithoughttomyselfdisgustedly，andthenrememberedhowlittlelike\"women，\"inourderogatorysense，theywere。Shewassmilingatme，readingmythought。
\"Wecanquiteseethatwedonotseemlike——women——toyou。
Ofcourse，inabi—sexualracethedistinctivefeatureofeachsexmustbeintensified。ButsurelytherearecharacteristicsenoughwhichbelongtoPeople，aren’tthere？That’swhatImeanaboutyoubeingmorelikeus——morelikePeople。Wefeelateasewithyou。\"
Jeff’sdifficultywashisexaltedgallantry。Heidealizedwomen，andwasalwayslookingforachanceto\"protect\"orto\"serve\"them。Theseneededneitherprotectionnorservice。Theywerelivinginpeaceandpowerandplenty;weweretheirguests，theirprisoners，absolutelydependent。
Ofcoursewecouldpromisewhatsoeverwemightofadvantages，iftheywouldcometoourcountry;butthemoreweknewoftheirs，thelessweboasted。
Terry’sjewelsandtrinketstheyprizedascurios;handedthemabout，askingquestionsastoworkmanship，notintheleastastovalue;
anddiscussednotownership，butwhichmuseumtoputthemin。
Whenamanhasnothingtogiveawoman，isdependentwhollyonhispersonalattraction，hiscourtshipisunderlimitations。
Theywereconsideringthesetwothings：theadvisabilityofmakingtheGreatChange;andthedegreeofpersonaladaptabilitywhichwouldbestservethatend。
Herewehadtheadvantageofoursmallpersonalexperiencewiththosethreefleetforestgirls;andthatservedtodrawustogether。
AsforEllador：Supposeyoucometoastrangelandandfinditpleasantenough——justalittlemorethanordinarilypleasant——
andthenyoufindrichfarmland，andthengardens，gorgeousgardens，andthenpalacesfullofrareandcurioustreasures——
incalculable，inexhaustible，andthen——mountains——liketheHimalayas，andthenthesea。
Ilikedherthatdayshebalancedonthebranchbeforemeandnamedthetrio。Ithoughtofhermost。AfterwardIturnedtoherlikeafriendwhenwemetforthethirdtime，andcontinuedtheacquaintance。WhileJeff’sultra—devotionratherpuzzledCelis，reallyputofftheirdayofhappiness，whileTerryandAlimaquarreledandparted，re—metandre—parted，ElladorandIgrewtobeclosefriends。
Wetalkedandtalked。Wetooklongwalkstogether。Sheshowedmethings，explainedthem，interpretedmuchthatIhadnotunderstood。ThroughhersympatheticintelligenceIbecamemoreandmorecomprehendingofthespiritofthepeopleofHerland，moreandmoreappreciativeofitsmarvelousinnergrowthaswellasouterperfection。
Iceasedtofeelastranger，aprisoner。Therewasasenseofunderstanding，ofidentity，ofpurpose。Wediscussed——everything。
And，asItraveledfartherandfarther，exploringtherich，sweetsoulofher，mysenseofpleasantfriendshipbecamebutabroadfoundationforsuchheight，suchbreadth，suchinterlockedcombinationoffeelingasleftmefairlyblindedwiththewonderofit。
AsI’vesaid，Ihadnevercaredverymuchforwomen，northeyforme——notTerry—fashion。Butthisone——
AtfirstInevereventhoughtofher\"inthatway，\"asthegirlshaveit。IhadnotcometothecountrywithanyTurkish—haremintentions，andIwasnowoman—worshipperlikeJeff。Ijustlikedthatgirl\"asafriend，\"aswesay。Thatfriendshipgrewlikeatree。
ShewasSUCHagoodsport！Wedidallkindsofthingstogether。
ShetaughtmegamesandItaughthergames，andweracedandrowedandhadallmanneroffun，aswellashighercomradeship。
Then，asIgotonfarther，thepalaceandtreasuresandsnowymountainrangesopenedup。Ihadneverknowntherecouldbesuchahumanbeing。So——great。Idon’tmeantalented。Shewasaforester——oneofthebest——butitwasnotthatgiftImean。
WhenIsayGREAT，Imeangreat——big，allthrough。IfIhadknownmoreofthosewomen，asintimately，Ishouldnothavefoundhersounique;butevenamongthemshewasnoble。HermotherwasanOverMother——andhergrandmother，too，Iheardlater。
Soshetoldmemoreandmoreofherbeautifulland;andItoldherasmuch，yes，morethanIwantedto，aboutmine;andwebecameinseparable。Thenthisdeeperrecognitioncameandgrew。
Ifeltmyownsoulriseandliftitswings，asitwere。
Lifegotbigger。ItseemedasifIunderstood——asIneverhadbefore——
asifIcouldDothings——asifItoocouldgrow——ifshewouldhelpme。
AndthenItcame——tobothofus，allatonce。
Astillday——ontheedgeoftheworld，theirworld。Thetwoofus，gazingoutoverthefardimforestlandbelow，talkingofheavenandearthandhumanlife，andofmylandandotherlandsandwhattheyneededandwhatIhopedtodoforthem——
\"Ifyouwillhelpme，\"Isaid。
Sheturnedtome，withthathigh，sweetlookofhers，andthen，ashereyesrestedinmineandherhandstoo——thensuddenlythereblazedoutbetweenusafartherglory，instant，overwhelming——quitebeyondanywordsofminetotell。
Celiswasablue—and—gold—and—roseperson;Alma，black—
and—white—and—red，ablazingbeauty。Elladorwasbrown：hairdarkandsoft，likeasealcoat;clearbrownskinwithahealthyredinit;browneyes——allthewayfromtopaztoblackvelvettheyseemedtorange——splendidgirls，allofthem。
Theyhadseenusfirstofall，fardowninthelakebelow，andflashedthetidingsacrossthelandevenbeforeourfirstexploringflight。
Theyhadwatchedourlanding，flittedthroughtheforestwithus，hiddeninthattreeand——Ishrewdlysuspect——giggledonpurpose。
Theyhadkeptwatchoverourhoodedmachine，takingturnsatit;andwhenourescapewasannounced，hadfollowedalong—
sideforadayortwo，andbeenthereatthelast，asdescribed。
Theyfeltaspecialclaimonus——calledus\"theirmen\"——andwhenwewereatlibertytostudythelandandpeople，andbestudiedbythem，theirclaimwasrecognizedbythewiseleaders。
ButIfelt，wealldid，thatweshouldhavechosenthemamongmillions，unerringly。
Andyet\"thepathoftrueloveneverdidrunsmooth\";thisperiodofcourtshipwasfullofthemostunsuspectedpitfalls。
WritingthisaslateasIdo，aftermanifoldexperiencesbothinHerlandand，later，inmyownland，Icannowunderstandandphilosophizeaboutwhatwasthenacontinualastonishmentandoftenatemporarytragedy。
The\"longsuit\"inmostcourtshipsissexattraction，ofcourse。
Thengraduallydevelopssuchcomradeshipasthetwotemperamentsallow。Then，aftermarriage，thereiseithertheestablishmentofaslow—growing，widelybasedfriendship，thedeepest，tenderest，sweetestofrelations，alllitandwarmedbytherecurrentflameoflove;orelsethatprocessisreversed，lovecoolsandfades，nofriendshipgrows，thewholerelationturnsfrombeautytoashes。
Hereeverythingwasdifferent。Therewasnosex—feelingtoappealto，orpracticallynone。Twothousandyears’disusehadleftverylittleoftheinstinct;alsowemustrememberthatthosewhohadattimesmanifesteditasatavisticexceptionswereoften，bythatveryfact，deniedmotherhood。
Yetwhilethemotherprocessremains，theinherentgroundforsex—distinctionremainsalso;andwhoshallsaywhatlong—
forgottenfeeling，vagueandnameless，wasstirredinsomeofthesemotherheartsbyourarrival？
Whatleftusevenmoreatseainourapproachwasthelackofanysex—tradition。Therewasnoacceptedstandardofwhatwas\"manly\"andwhatwas\"womanly。\"
WhenJeffsaid，takingthefruitbasketfromhisadoredone，\"Awomanshouldnotcarryanything，\"Celissaid，\"Why？\"withthefrankestamazement。Hecouldnotlookthatfleet—footed，deep—chestedyoungforesterinthefaceandsay，\"Becausesheisweaker。\"Shewasn’t。Onedoesnotcallaracehorseweakbecauseitisvisiblynotacarthorse。
Hesaid，ratherlamely，thatwomenwerenotbuiltforheavywork。
Shelookedoutacrossthefieldstowheresomewomenwereworking，buildinganewbitofwalloutoflargestones;lookedbackatthenearesttownwithitswoman—builthouses;downatthesmooth，hardroadwewerewalkingon;andthenatthelittlebaskethehadtakenfromher。
\"Idon’tunderstand，\"shesaidquitesweetly。\"Arethewomeninyourcountrysoweakthattheycouldnotcarrysuchathingasthat？\"
\"Itisaconvention，\"hesaid。\"Weassumethatmotherhoodisasufficientburden——thatmenshouldcarryalltheothers。\"
\"Whatabeautifulfeeling！\"shesaid，herblueeyesshining。
\"Doesitwork？\"askedAlima，inherkeen，swiftway。\"Doallmeninallcountriescarryeverything？Orisitonlyinyours？\"
\"Don’tbesoliteral，\"Terrybeggedlazily。\"Whyaren’tyouwillingtobeworshippedandwaitedon？Weliketodoit。\"
\"Youdon’tliketohaveusdoittoyou，\"sheanswered。
\"That’sdifferent，\"hesaid，annoyed;andwhenshesaid，\"Whyisit？\"hequitesulked，referringhertome，saying，\"Van’sthephilosopher。\"
ElladorandItalkeditallouttogether，sothatwehadaneasierexperienceofitwhentherealmiracletimecame。Also，betweenus，wemadethingsclearertoJeffandCelis。ButTerrywouldnotlistentoreason。
HewasmadlyinlovewithAlima。Hewantedtotakeherbystorm，andnearlylostherforever。
Yousee，ifamanlovesagirlwhoisinthefirstplaceyoungandinexperienced;whointhesecondplaceiseducatedwithabackgroundofcavemantradition，amiddle—groundofpoetryandromance，andaforegroundofunspokenhopeandinterestallcenteringupontheoneEvent;andwhohas，furthermore，absolutelynootherhopeorinterestworthyofthename——
why，itisacomparativelyeasymattertosweepheroffherfeetwithadashingattack。Terrywasapastmasterinthisprocess。
Hetriedithere，andAlimawassoaffronted，sorepelled，thatitwasweeksbeforehegotnearenoughtotryagain。
Themorecoldlyshedeniedhim，thehotterhisdetermination;
hewasnotusedtorealrefusal。Theapproachofflatteryshedismissedwithlaughter，giftsandsuch\"attentions\"wecouldnotbringtobear，pathosandcomplaintofcrueltystirredonlyareasoninginquiry。IttookTerryalongtime。
IdoubtifsheeveracceptedherstrangeloverasfullyasdidCelisandElladortheirs。Hehadhurtandoffendedhertoooften;
therewerereservations。
ButIthinkAlimaretainedsomefaintvestigeoflong—
descendedfeelingwhichmadeTerrymorepossibletoherthantoothers;andthatshehadmadeuphermindtotheexperimentandhatedtorenounceit。
Howeveritcameabout，weallthreeatlengthachievedfullunderstanding，andsolemnlyfacedwhatwastothemastepofmeasurelessimportance，agravequestionaswellasagreathappiness;
tousastrange，newjoy。
Ofmarriageasaceremonytheyknewnothing。Jeffwasforbringingthemtoourcountryforthereligiousandthecivilceremony，butneitherCelisnortheotherswouldconsent。
\"Wecan’texpectthemtowanttogowithus——yet，\"saidTerrysagely。
\"Waitabit，boys。We’vegottotake’emontheirownterms——ifatall。\"
This，inruefulreminiscenceofhisrepeatedfailures。
\"Butourtime’scoming，\"headdedcheerfully。\"Thesewomenhaveneverbeenmastered，yousee——\"This，asonewhohadmadeadiscovery。
\"You’dbetternottrytodoanymasteringifyouvalueyourchances，\"Itoldhimseriously;butheonlylaughed，andsaid，\"Everymantohistrade！\"
Wecouldn’tdoanythingwithhim。Hehadtotakehisownmedicine。
Ifthelackoftraditionofcourtshipleftusmuchatseainourwooing，wefoundourselvesstillmorebewilderedbylackoftraditionofmatrimony。
Andhereagain，Ihavetodrawonlaterexperience，andasdeepanacquaintancewiththeircultureasIcouldachieve，toexplainthegulfsofdifferencebetweenus。
Twothousandyearsofonecontinuousculturewithnomen。
Backofthat，onlytraditionsoftheharem。TheyhadnoexactanalogueforourwordHOME，anymorethantheyhadforourRoman—basedFAMILY。
Theylovedoneanotherwithapracticallyuniversalaffection，risingtoexquisiteandunbrokenfriendships，andbroadeningtoadevotiontotheircountryandpeopleforwhichourwordPATRIOTISM
isnodefinitionatall。
Patriotism，redhot，iscompatiblewiththeexistenceofaneglectofnationalinterests，adishonesty，acoldindifferencetothesufferingofmillions。Patriotismislargelypride，andverylargelycombativeness。Patriotismgenerallyhasachiponitsshoulder。
Thiscountryhadnoothercountrytomeasureitselfby——savethefewpoorsavagesfarbelow，withwhomtheyhadnocontact。
Theylovedtheircountrybecauseitwastheirnursery，playground，andworkshop——theirsandtheirchildren’s。Theywereproudofitasaworkshop，proudoftheirrecordofever—increasingefficiency;theyhadmadeapleasantgardenofit，averypracticallittleheaven;butmostofalltheyvaluedit——andhereitishardforustounderstandthem——asaculturalenvironmentfortheirchildren。
That，ofcourse，isthekeynoteofthewholedistinction——
theirchildren。
Fromthosefirstbreathlesslyguarded，half—adoredracemothers，alluptheascendingline，theyhadthisdominantthoughtofbuildingupagreatracethroughthechildren。
Allthesurrenderingdevotionourwomenhaveputintotheirprivatefamilies，thesewomenputintotheircountryandrace。
Alltheloyaltyandservicemenexpectofwives，theygave，notsinglytomen，butcollectivelytooneanother。
Andthemotherinstinct，withussopainfullyintense，sothwartedbyconditions，soconcentratedinpersonaldevotiontoafew，sobitterlyhurtbydeath，disease，orbarrenness，andevenbythemeregrowthofthechildren，leavingthemotheraloneinheremptynest——allthisfeelingwiththemflowedoutinastrong，widecurrent，unbrokenthroughthegenerations，deepeningandwideningthroughtheyears，includingeverychildinalltheland。
Withtheirunitedpowerandwisdom，theyhadstudiedandovercomethe\"diseasesofchildhood\"——theirchildrenhadnone。
Theyhadfacedtheproblemsofeducationandsosolvedthemthattheirchildrengrewupasnaturallyasyoungtrees;learningthrougheverysense;taughtcontinuouslybutunconsciously——
neverknowingtheywerebeingeducated。
Infact，theydidnotusethewordaswedo。Theirideaofeducationwasthespecialtrainingtheytook，whenhalfgrownup，underexperts。Thentheeageryoungmindsfairlyflungthemselvesontheirchosensubjects，andacquiredwithanease，abreadth，agrasp，atwhichIneverceasedtowonder。
Butthebabiesandlittlechildrenneverfeltthepressureofthat\"forciblefeeding\"ofthemindthatwecall\"education。\"Ofthis，morelater。
CHAPTER9
OurRelationsandTheirsWhatI’mtryingtoshowhereisthatwiththesewomenthewholerelationshipoflifecountedinaglad，eagergrowing—uptojointheranksofworkersinthelinebestloved;adeep，tenderreverenceforone’sownmother——toodeepforthemtospeakoffreely——andbeyondthat，thewhole，free，widerangeofsisterhood，thesplendidserviceofthecountry，andfriendships。
Tothesewomenwecame，filledwiththeideas，convictions，traditions，ofourculture，andundertooktorouseinthemtheemotionswhich——tous——seemedproper。
Howevermuch，orlittle，oftruesex—feelingtherewasbetweenus，itphraseditselfintheirmindsintermsoffriendship，theonepurelypersonallovetheyknew，andofultimateparentage。Visiblywewerenotmothers，norchildren，norcompatriots;so，iftheylovedus，wemustbefriends。
Thatweshouldpairofftogetherinourcourtingdayswasnaturaltothem;thatwethreeshouldremainmuchtogether，astheydidthemselves，wasalsonatural。Wehadasyetnowork，sowehungaboutthemintheirforesttasks;thatwasnatural，too。
Butwhenwebegantotalkabouteachcouplehaving\"homes\"ofourown，theycouldnotunderstandit。
\"Ourworktakesusallaroundthecountry，\"explainedCelis。
\"Wecannotliveinoneplaceallthetime。\"
\"Wearetogethernow，\"urgedAlima，lookingproudlyatTerry’sstalwartnearness。（Thiswasoneofthetimeswhentheywere\"on，\"thoughpresently\"off\"again。）
\"It’snotthesamethingatall，\"heinsisted。\"Amanwantsahomeofhisown，withhiswifeandfamilyinit。\"
\"Stayinginit？Allthetime？\"askedEllador。\"Notimprisoned，surely！\"
\"Ofcoursenot！Livingthere——naturally，\"heanswered。
\"Whatdoesshedothere——allthetime？\"Alimademanded。
\"Whatisherwork？\"
ThenTerrypatientlyexplainedagainthatourwomendidnotwork——withreservations。
\"Butwhatdotheydo——iftheyhavenowork？\"shepersisted。
\"Theytakecareofthehome——andthechildren。\"
\"Atthesametime？\"askedEllador。
\"Whyyes。Thechildrenplayabout，andthemotherhaschargeofitall。Thereareservants，ofcourse。\"
Itseemedsoobvious，sonaturaltoTerry，thathealwaysgrewimpatient;butthegirlswerehonestlyanxioustounderstand。
\"Howmanychildrendoyourwomenhave？\"Alimahadhernotebookoutnow，andaratherfirmsetoflip。Terrybegantododge。
\"Thereisnosetnumber，mydear，\"heexplained。\"Somehavemore，somehaveless。\"
\"Somehavenoneatall，\"Iputinmischievously。
Theypouncedonthisadmissionandsoonwrungfromusthegeneralfactthatthosewomenwhohadthemostchildrenhadtheleastservants，andthosewhohadthemostservantshadtheleastchildren。
\"There！\"triumphedAlima。\"Oneortwoornochildren，andthreeorfourservants。NowwhatdothosewomenDO？\"
Weexplainedasbestwemight。Wetalkedof\"socialduties，\"
disingenuouslybankingontheirnotinterpretingthewordsaswedid;
wetalkedofhospitality，entertainment，andvarious\"interests。\"
Allthetimeweknewthattotheselarge—mindedwomenwhosewholementaloutlookwassocollective，thelimitationsofawhollypersonallifewereinconceivable。
\"Wecannotreallyunderstandit，\"Elladorconcluded。\"Weareonlyhalfapeople。Wehaveourwoman—waysandtheyhavetheirman—waysandtheirboth—ways。Wehaveworkedoutasystemoflivingwhichis，ofcourse，limited。Theymusthaveabroader，richer，betterone。Ishouldliketoseeit。\"
\"Youshall，dearest，\"Iwhispered。
\"There’snothingtosmoke，\"complainedTerry。HewasinthemidstofaprolongedquarrelwithAlima，andneededasedative。
\"There’snothingtodrink。Theseblessedwomenhavenopleasantvices。Iwishwecouldgetoutofhere！\"
Thiswishwasvain。Wewerealwaysunderacertaindegreeofwatchfulness。WhenTerryburstforthtotrampthestreetsatnighthealwaysfounda\"Colonel\"hereorthere;andwhen，onanoccasionoffiercethoughtemporarydespair，hehadplungedtothecliffedgewithsomevagueviewtoescape，hefoundseveralofthemcloseby。Wewerefree——buttherewasastringtoit。
\"They’venounpleasantones，either，\"Jeffremindedhim。
\"Wishtheyhad！\"Terrypersisted。\"They’veneitherthevicesofmen，northevirtuesofwomen——they’reneuters！\"
\"Youknowbetterthanthat。Don’ttalknonsense，\"saidI，severely。
IwasthinkingofEllador’seyeswhentheygavemeacertainlook，alookshedidnotatallrealize。
Jeffwasequallyincensed。\"Idon’tknowwhat`virtuesofwomen’youmiss。Seemstometheyhaveallofthem。\"
\"They’venomodesty，\"snappedTerry。\"Nopatience，nosubmissiveness，noneofthatnaturalyieldingwhichiswoman’sgreatestcharm。\"
Ishookmyheadpityingly。\"Goandapologizeandmakefriendsagain，Terry。You’vegotagrouch，that’sall。Thesewomenhavethevirtueofhumanity，withlessofitsfaultsthananyfolksIeversaw。Asforpatience——they’dhavepitchedusoverthecliffsthefirstdaywelitamong’em，iftheyhadn’tthat。\"
\"Thereareno——distractions，\"hegrumbled。\"Nowhereamancangoandcutlooseabit。It’saneverlastingparlorandnursery。\"
\"andworkshop，\"Iadded。\"Andschool，andoffice，andlaboratory，andstudio，andtheater，and——home。\"
\"HOME！\"hesneered。\"Thereisn’tahomeinthewholepitifulplace。\"
\"Thereisn’tanythingelse，andyouknowit，\"Jeffretortedhotly。\"Ineversaw，Ineverdreamedof，suchuniversalpeaceandgoodwillandmutualaffection。\"
\"Oh，well，ofcourse，ifyoulikeaperpetualSundayschool，it’sallverywell。ButIlikeSomethingDoing。Hereit’salldone。\"
Therewassomethingtothiscriticism。Theyearsofpioneeringlayfarbehindthem。Theirswasacivilizationinwhichtheinitialdifficultieshadlongsincebeenovercome。Theuntroubledpeace，theunmeasuredplenty，thesteadyhealth，thelargegoodwillandsmoothmanagementwhichorderedeverything，leftnothingtoovercome。Itwaslikeapleasantfamilyinanoldestablished，perfectlyruncountryplace。
Ilikeditbecauseofmyeagerandcontinuedinterestinthesociologicalachievementsinvolved。Jefflikeditashewouldhavelikedsuchafamilyandsuchaplaceanywhere。
Terrydidnotlikeitbecausehefoundnothingtooppose，tostrugglewith，toconquer。
\"Lifeisastruggle，hastobe，\"heinsisted。\"Ifthereisnostruggle，thereisnolife——that’sall。\"
\"You’retalkingnonsense——masculinenonsense，\"thepeacefulJeffreplied。HewascertainlyawarmdefenderofHerland。\"Antsdon’traisetheirmyriadsbyastruggle，dothey？Orthebees？\"
\"Oh，ifyougobacktoinsects——andwanttoliveinananthill——！
Itellyouthehighergradesoflifearereachedonlythroughstruggle——combat。There’snoDramahere。Lookattheirplays！
Theymakemesick。\"
Heratherhadusthere。Thedramaofthecountrywas——toourtaste——ratherflat。Yousee，theylackedthesexmotiveand，withit，jealousy。Theyhadnointerplayofwarringnations，noaristocracyanditsambitions，nowealthandpovertyopposition。
IseeIhavesaidlittleabouttheeconomicsoftheplace;itshouldhavecomebefore，butI’llgoonaboutthedramanow。
Theyhadtheirownkind。Therewasamostimpressivearrayofpageantry，ofprocessions，asortofgrandritual，withtheirartsandtheirreligionbroadlyblended。Theverybabiesjoinedinit。
Toseeoneoftheirgreatannualfestivals，withthemassedandmarchingstatelinessofthosegreatmothers，theyoungwomenbraveandnoble，beautifulandstrong;andthenthechildren，takingpartasnaturallyasourswouldfrolicroundaChristmastree——itwasoverpoweringintheimpressionofjoyous，triumphantlife。
Theyhadbegunataperiodwhenthedrama，thedance，music，religion，andeducationwereallveryclosetogether;andinsteadofdevelopingthemindetachedlines，theyhadkepttheconnection。Letmetryagaintogive，ifIcan，afaintsenseofthedifferenceinthelifeview——thebackgroundandbasisonwhichtheirculturerested。
Elladortoldmealotaboutit。Shetookmetoseethechildren，thegrowinggirls，thespecialteachers。Shepickedoutbooksformetoread。ShealwaysseemedtounderstandjustwhatIwantedtoknow，andhowtogiveittome。
WhileTerryandAlimastrucksparksandparted——healwaysmadlydrawntoherandshetohim——shemusthavebeen，orshe’dneverhavestoodthewayhebehaved——ElladorandIhadalreadyadeep，restfulfeeling，asifwe’dalwayshadoneanother。
JeffandCeliswerehappy;therewasnoquestionofthat;
butitdidn’tseemtomeasiftheyhadthegoodtimeswedid。
Well，hereistheHerlandchildfacinglife——asElladortriedtoshowittome。Fromthefirstmemory，theyknewPeace，Beauty，Order，Safety，Love，Wisdom，Justice，Patience，andPlenty。
By\"plenty\"Imeanthatthebabiesgrewupinanenvironmentwhichmettheirneeds，justasyoungfawnsmightgrowupindewyforestgladesandbrook—fedmeadows。Andtheyenjoyeditasfranklyandutterlyasthefawnswould。
Theyfoundthemselvesinabigbrightlovelyworld，fullofthemostinterestingandenchantingthingstolearnaboutandtodo。
Thepeopleeverywherewerefriendlyandpolite。NoHerlandchildevermettheoverbearingrudenesswesocommonlyshowtochildren。TheywerePeople，too，fromthefirst;themostpreciouspartofthenation。
Ineachstepoftherichexperienceofliving，theyfoundtheinstancetheywerestudyingwidenoutintocontactwithanendlessrangeofcommoninterests。ThethingstheylearnedwereRELATED，fromthefirst;relatedtooneanother，andtothenationalprosperity。
\"Itwasabutterflythatmademeaforester，\"saidEllador。
\"Iwasaboutelevenyearsold，andIfoundabigpurple—and—greenbutterflyonalowflower。Icaughtit，verycarefully，bytheclosedwings，asIhadbeentoldtodo，andcarriedittothenearestinsectteacher\"——Imadeanotetheretoaskherwhatonearthaninsectteacherwas——\"toaskheritsname。Shetookitfrommewithalittlecryofdelight。`Oh，youblessedchild，’shesaid。`Doyoulikeobernuts？’OfcourseIlikedobernuts，andsaidso。Itisourbestfood—nut，youknow。`Thisisafemaleoftheobernutmoth，’shetoldme。`Theyarealmostgone。Wehavebeentryingtoexterminatethemforcenturies。Ifyouhadnotcaughtthisone，itmighthavelaideggsenoughtoraisewormsenoughtodestroythousandsofournuttrees——thousandsofbushelsofnuts——andmakeyearsandyearsoftroubleforus。’
\"Everybodycongratulatedme。Thechildrenalloverthecountryweretoldtowatchforthatmoth，iftherewereanymore。
Iwasshownthehistoryofthecreature，andanaccountofthedamageitusedtodoandofhowlongandhardourforemothershadworkedtosavethattreeforus。Igrewafoot，itseemedtome，anddeterminedthenandtheretobeaforester。\"
Thisisbutaninstance;sheshowedmemany。Thebigdifferencewasthatwhereasourchildrengrowupinprivatehomesandfamilies，witheveryeffortmadetoprotectandsecludethemfromadangerousworld，heretheygrewupinawide，friendlyworld，andknewitfortheirs，fromthefirst。
Theirchild—literaturewasawonderfulthing。Icouldhavespentyearsfollowingthedelicatesubtleties，thesmoothsimplicitieswithwhichtheyhadbentthatgreatarttotheserviceofthechildmind。
Wehavetwolifecycles：theman’sandthewoman’s。Tothemanthereisgrowth，struggle，conquest，theestablishmentofhisfamily，andasmuchfurthersuccessingainorambitionashecanachieve。
Tothewoman，growth，thesecuringofahusband，thesubordinateactivitiesoffamilylife，andafterwardsuch\"social\"orcharitableinterestsasherpositionallows。
Herewasbutonecycle，andthatalargeone。
Thechildentereduponabroadopenfieldoflife，inwhichmotherhoodwastheonegreatpersonalcontributiontothenationallife，andalltheresttheindividualshareintheircommonactivities。
EverygirlItalkedto，atanyageabovebabyhood，hadhercheerfuldeterminationastowhatshewasgoingtobewhenshegrewup。
WhatTerrymeantbysayingtheyhadno\"modesty\"wasthatthisgreatlife—viewhadnoshadyplaces;theyhadahighsenseofpersonaldecorum，butnoshame——noknowledgeofanythingtobeashamedof。
Eventheirshortcomingsandmisdeedsinchildhoodneverwerepresentedtothemassins;merelyaserrorsandmisplays——
asinagame。Someofthem，whowerepalpablylessagreeablethanothersorwhohadarealweaknessorfault，weretreatedwithcheerfulallowance，asafriendlygroupatwhistwouldtreatapoorplayer。
Theirreligion，yousee，wasmaternal;andtheirethics，basedonthefullperceptionofevolution，showedtheprincipleofgrowthandthebeautyofwiseculture。Theyhadnotheoryoftheessentialoppositionofgoodandevil;lifetothemwasgrowth;theirpleasurewasingrowing，andtheirdutyalso。
Withthisbackground，withtheirsublimatedmother—love，expressedintermsofwidestsocialactivity，everyphaseoftheirworkwasmodifiedbyitseffectonthenationalgrowth。Thelanguageitselftheyhaddeliberatelyclarified，simplified，madeeasyandbeautiful，forthesakeofthechildren。
Thisseemedtousawhollyincrediblething：first，thatanynationshouldhavetheforesight，thestrength，andthepersistencetoplanandfulfillsuchatask;andsecond，thatwomenshouldhavehadsomuchinitiative。Wehaveassumed，asamatterofcourse，thatwomenhadnone;thatonlytheman，withhisnaturalenergyandimpatienceofrestriction，wouldeverinventanything。
Herewefoundthatthepressureoflifeupontheenvironmentdevelopsinthehumanminditsinventivereactions，regardlessofsex;
andfurther，thatafullyawakenedmotherhoodplansandworkswithoutlimit，forthegoodofthechild。
Thatthechildrenmightbemostnoblyborn，andrearedinanenvironmentcalculatedtoallowtherichest，freestgrowth，theyhaddeliberatelyremodeledandimprovedthewholestate。
Idonotmeanintheleastthattheystoppedatthat，anymorethanachildstopsatchildhood。Themostimpressivepartoftheirwholeculturebeyondthisperfectsystemofchild—rearingwastherangeofinterestsandassociationsopentothemall，forlife。
ButinthefieldofliteratureIwasmoststruck，atfirst，bythechild—motive。
Theyhadthesamegradationofsimplerepetitiveverseandstorythatwearefamiliarwith，andthemostexquisite，imaginativetales;
butwhere，withus，thesearethedribbledremnantsofancientfolkmythsandprimitivelullabies，theirsweretheexquisiteworkofgreatartists;notonlysimpleandunfailinginappealtothechild—mind，butTRUE，truetothelivingworldaboutthem。
Tositinoneoftheirnurseriesforadaywastochangeone’sviewsforeverastobabyhood。Theyoungestones，rosyfatlingsintheirmothers’arms，orsleepinglightlyintheflower—sweetair，seemednaturalenough，savethattheynevercried。IneverheardachildcryinHerland，saveonceortwiceatabadfall;andthenpeoplerantohelp，aswewouldatascreamofagonyfromagrownperson。
Eachmotherhadheryearofglory;thetimetoloveandlearn，livingcloselywithherchild，nursingitproudly，oftenfortwoyearsormore。Thisperhapswasonereasonfortheirwonderfulvigor。
Butafterthebaby—yearthemotherwasnotsoconstantlyinattendance，unless，indeed，herworkwasamongthelittleones。
Shewasneverfaroff，however，andherattitudetowardtheco—mothers，whoseproudchild—servicewasdirectandcontinuous，waslovelytosee。
Asforthebabies——agroupofthosenakeddarlingsplayingonshortvelvetgrass，clean—swept;orrugsassoft;orinshallowpoolsofbrightwater;tumblingoverwithbubblingjoyousbabylaughter——
itwasaviewofinfanthappinesssuchasIhadneverdreamed。
Thebabieswererearedinthewarmerpartofthecountry，andgraduallyacclimatedtothecoolerheightsastheygrewolder。
Sturdychildrenoftenandtwelveplayedinthesnowasjoyfullyasoursdo;therewerecontinuousexcursionsofthem，fromonepartofthelandtoanother，sothattoeachchildthewholecountrymightbehome。
Itwasalltheirs，waitingforthemtolearn，tolove，touse，toserve;asourownlittleboysplantobe\"abigsoldier，\"or\"acowboy，\"orwhateverpleasestheirfancy;andourlittlegirlsplanforthekindofhometheymeantohave，orhowmanychildren;
theseplanned，freelyandgailywithmuchhappychattering，ofwhattheywoulddoforthecountrywhentheyweregrown。
Itwastheeagerhappinessofthechildrenandyoungpeoplewhichfirstmademeseethefollyofthatcommonnotionofours——thatiflifewassmoothandhappy，peoplewouldnotenjoyit。
AsIstudiedtheseyoungsters，vigorous，joyous，eagerlittlecreatures，andtheirvoraciousappetiteforlife，itshookmypreviousideassothoroughlythattheyhaveneverbeenre—established。
Thesteadylevelofgoodhealthgavethemallthatnaturalstimulusweusedtocall\"animalspirits\"——anoddcontradictioninterms。
Theyfoundthemselvesinanimmediateenvironmentwhichwasagreeableandinteresting，andbeforethemstretchedtheyearsoflearninganddiscovery，thefascinating，endlessprocessofeducation。
AsIlookedintothesemethodsandcomparedthemwithourown，mystrangeuncomfortablesenseofrace—humilitygrewapace。
Elladorcouldnotunderstandmyastonishment。Sheexplainedthingskindlyandsweetly，butwithsomeamazementthattheyneededexplaining，andwithsuddenquestionsastohowwediditthatleftmemeekerthanever。
IbetookmyselftoSomeloneday，carefullynottakingEllador。
IdidnotmindseemingfoolishtoSomel——shewasusedtoit。
\"Iwantachapterofexplanation，\"Itoldher。\"Youknowmystupiditiesbyheart，andIdonotwanttoshowthemtoEllador——shethinksmesowise！\"
Shesmileddelightedly。\"Itisbeautifultosee，\"shetoldme，\"thisnewwonderfullovebetweenyou。Thewholecountryisinterested，youknow——howcanwehelpit！\"
Ihadnotthoughtofthat。Wesay：\"Alltheworldlovesalover，\"
buttohaveacoupleofmillionpeoplewatchingone’scourtship——andthatadifficultone——wasratherembarrassing。
\"Tellmeaboutyourtheoryofeducation，\"Isaid。\"Makeitshortandeasy。And，toshowyouwhatpuzzlesme，I’lltellyouthatinourtheorygreatstressislaidontheforcedexertionofthechild’smind;wethinkitisgoodforhimtoovercomeobstacles。\"
\"Ofcourseitis，\"sheunexpectedlyagreed。\"Allourchildrendothat——theyloveto。\"
Thatpuzzledmeagain。Iftheylovedtodoit，howcoulditbeeducational？
\"Ourtheoryisthis，\"shewentoncarefully。\"Hereisayounghumanbeing。Themindisasnaturalathingasthebody，athingthatgrows，athingtouseandenjoy。Weseektonourish，tostimulate，toexercisethemindofachildaswedothebody。
Therearethetwomaindivisionsineducation——youhavethoseofcourse？——thethingsitisnecessarytoknow，andthethingsitisnecessarytodo。\"
\"Todo？Mentalexercises，youmean？\"
\"Yes。Ourgeneralplanisthis：Inthematteroffeedingthemind，offurnishinginformation，weuseourbestpowerstomeetthenaturalappetiteofahealthyyoungbrain;nottooverfeedit，toprovidesuchamountandvarietyofimpressionsasseemmostwelcometoeachchild。Thatistheeasiestpart。Theotherdivisionisinarrangingaproperlygraduatedseriesofexerciseswhichwillbestdevelopeachmind;thecommonfacultiesweallhave，andmostcarefully，theespecialfacultiessomeofushave。
Youdothisalso，doyounot？\"
\"Inaway，\"Isaidratherlamely。\"Wehavenotsosubtleandhighlydevelopedasystemasyou，notapproachingit;buttellmemore。
Astotheinformation——howdoyoumanage？Itappearsthatallofyouknowprettymucheverything——isthatright？\"
Thisshelaughinglydisclaimed。\"Bynomeans。Weare，asyousoonfoundout，extremelylimitedinknowledge。Iwishyoucouldrealizewhatafermentthecountryisinoverthenewthingsyouhavetoldus;thepassionateeagernessamongthousandsofustogotoyourcountryandlearn——learn——learn！Butwhatwedoknowisreadilydivisibleintocommonknowledgeandspecialknowledge。Thecommonknowledgewehavelongsincelearnedtofeedintothemindsofourlittleoneswithnowasteoftimeorstrength;thespecialknowledgeisopentoall，astheydesireit。Someofusspecializeinonelineonly。Butmosttakeupseveral——somefortheirregularwork，sometogrowwith。\"
\"Togrowwith？\"
\"Yes。Whenonesettlestoocloseinonekindofworkthereisatendencytoatrophyinthedisusedportionsofthebrain。
Weliketokeeponlearning，always。\"
\"Whatdoyoustudy？\"
\"Asmuchasweknowofthedifferentsciences。Wehave，withinourlimits，agooddealofknowledgeofanatomy，physiology，nutrition——allthatpertainstoafullandbeautifulpersonallife。
Wehaveourbotanyandchemistry，andsoon——veryrudimentary，butinteresting;ourownhistory，withitsaccumulatingpsychology。\"
\"Youputpsychologywithhistory——notwithpersonallife？\"
\"Ofcourse。Itisours;itisamongandbetweenus，anditchangeswiththesucceedingandimprovinggenerations。Weareatwork，slowlyandcarefully，developingourwholepeoplealongtheselines。
Itisgloriouswork——splendid！Toseethethousandsofbabiesimproving，showingstrongerclearerminds，sweeterdispositions，highercapacities——
don’tyoufinditsoinyourcountry？\"
ThisIevadedflatly。Irememberedthecheerlessclaimthatthehumanmindwasnobetterthaninitsearliestperiodofsavagery，onlybetterinformed——astatementIhadneverbelieved。
\"Wetrymostearnestlyfortwopowers，\"Somelcontinued。
\"Thetwothatseemtousbasicallynecessaryforallnoblelife：
aclear，far—reachingjudgment，andastrongwell—usedwill。Wespendourbestefforts，allthroughchildhoodandyouth，indevelopingthesefaculties，individualjudgmentandwill。\"
\"Aspartofyoursystemofeducation，youmean？\"
\"Exactly。Asthemostvaluablepart。Withthebabies，asyoumayhavenoticed，wefirstprovideanenvironmentwhichfeedsthemindwithouttiringit;allmannerofsimpleandinterestingthingstodo，assoonastheyareoldenoughtodothem;physicalproperties，ofcourse，comefirst。Butasearlyaspossible，goingverycarefully，nottotaxthemind，weprovidechoices，simplechoices，withveryobviouscausesandconsequences。You’venoticedthegames？\"
Ihad。Thechildrenseemedalwaysplayingsomething;orelse，sometimes，engagedinpeacefulresearchesoftheirown。Ihadwonderedatfirstwhentheywenttoschool，butsoonfoundthattheyneverdid——
totheirknowledge。Itwasalleducationbutnoschooling。